Julia Haart reveals that her ex said their five-year-old daughter could not play sports

My Unorthodox Life star Julia Haart has revealed that her ex-husband Yosef Hendler said their 5-year-old daughter could not play sports if her outfits were sexualized.

Designer and entrepreneur Haart, now 50, starred last year in the popular Netflix series, which focused on her advancement in the fashion industry after she left her strict religious household at the age of 42.

Now Haart – who is currently involved in an ugly divorce from her second husband and Elite World Group CEO Silvio Scaglia – has shared more intimate details about her journey through her newly released memoir, Brazen, which was left on Tuesday.

Candidate: My Unorthodox Life star Julia Haart has revealed that her ex-husband Yosef Hendler said their five-year-old daughter could not play sports if her outfits were sexualized

She promoted the book at Thursday’s This Morning detailed parts of her daughter Miriam’s upbringing and said she began to question why she could not play sports.

She explained that when her daughter started asking questions about such things, she eventually decided to leave the family and her strict religious life.

She said: ‘I should have traveled 20 years before. That was when my daughter Miriam turned five years old and started giving voice to the questions I had had all my life.

‘She started asking questions and said to me’ I want to play sports’ and my ex would say it’s not modest to wear a skirt and if a man sees you he may have some form of sexual reaction to that. so you can not play sports! ‘

Hard: She promoted the book on Thursday's This Morning detailed parts of her daughter Miriam's upbringing and said she began to question why she could not play sports (picture with Miriam in 2021)

Hard: She promoted the book on Thursday’s This Morning detailed parts of her daughter Miriam’s upbringing and said she began to question why she could not play sports (picture with Miriam in 2021)

‘And my five-year-old’ oh why am I responsible for his sins’. She started asking all the questions I had been afraid to ask all my life. ‘

Speaking further about the book and her now feminist beliefs, she said: ‘It’s basically the story of my path. It really is all the mess, the confusion, the details. The book is the whole story.

‘All my life I thought to myself, my intellect is no less for a man. I had all these questions. I had all that guilt for thinking it at all.

Fame: Designer and entrepreneur Haart, now 50, starred last year in the popular Netflix series, which focused on her advancement in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious household at the age of 42

Fame: Designer and entrepreneur Haart, now 50, starred last year in the popular Netflix series, which focused on her advancement in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious household at the age of 42

The thing is, most people have all these obstacles to what they can and cannot do. Religion trains you, if you do not follow these steps, you are going against God. It is scary.

‘It’s been very difficult. I always felt I had to be obedient and listen. I remind myself that no changemaker has ever been popular. ‘

She continued: ‘No one has thrown me in jail for demanding freedom. I believe more in God now than when I lived there. My life has been a string of miracles since I walked out that door.

‘I get tens of thousands of DMs and some letters talking to me about what the show has done for their lives and how they have changed the circumstances.’

Her story: Julia opened up about escaping her protected Jewish upbringing in her recently published memoir, Brazen, which was left standing Tuesday

Her story: Julia opened up about escaping her protected Jewish upbringing in her recently published memoir, Brazen, which was left standing Tuesday

Haart went on to launch her own shoe collection of the same name and became creative director at the Italian luxury house La Perla, after she decided to leave her Haredi community – where ‘women should rarely be seen and never heard’ in 2013 – after 42 years.

She was born in Moscow, Russia, and emigrated to the United States with her parents at the age of three.

When she was 11, they settled in Monsey, a suburb 55 miles north of New York City with the largest population of Hasidic Jews in the United States outside of New York City, where nearly half of the households speak Yiddish or Hebrew.

“We lived in the 19th century,” she told the Los Angeles Times earlier about her Yeshivish background, explaining that modesty for women was paramount and that access to outside information via television, radio or even newspapers was hard to find.

Wedding: Haart married Yosef at the age of 19, and she wrote in her book that she had only met him a handful of times before their wedding

Wedding: Haart married Yosef at the age of 19, and she wrote in her book that she had only met him a handful of times before their wedding

She also described a sexist worldview in which men studied the Torah but women did not “because her mind was unable to grasp it.”

She explained: ‘I was told,’ Women’s minds are light ‘-‘ nashim da’atan kalos. ‘ Where I lived, women were rarely seen and never heard.

‘Our lives were governed by a web of modesty laws that required us not only to cover our bodies from head to toe, but also to behave relatively. You grow up believing that you mean nothing at all.

But Hart’s interests always pushed beyond the bounds of what was considered acceptable.

She read a lot – from classic literature to fashion magazines, she had to sneak from a nearby 7-Eleven.

In her book, Haart wrote that she ‘spent the first 42 years of my life in utter misery’, but admitted to The Times in a new interview that she deliberately ‘downplayed’ the ‘extent of her misery’ in it.

‘I did not want to be a victim, did I? I did not want people to feel sorry for me, ‘she told them as she discussed the memoirs.

At the age of 16, she taught herself to sew and made her own modest versions of the clothes she saw in these magazines.

Haart married at the age of 19 to a man named Yosef Hendler, and she wrote in her book that she had only met him a handful of times before their wedding.

Difficult: She is currently involved in an ugly divorce battle with her second husband - Elite World Group CEO Silvio Scaglia (pictured together in 2017)

Difficult: She is currently involved in an ugly divorce battle with her second husband – Elite World Group CEO Silvio Scaglia (pictured together in 2017)

Together they had four children – Batsheva, Miriam, Shlomo and Aaron – and they were brought up with the same religious upbringing.

As time went on, Haart became more and more depressed, and she even began to think about how she could commit suicide.

‘The day came when I could no longer. I could not stay a second more, ‘she told the New York Post earlier.

‘You’re trapped in a life that is not yours. So it was stay and die, or walk out the door. ‘

She ultimately decided that starving herself was the best way to go because people would assume it was an accident, an eating disorder – so her children would not bear the shame of their mother’s suicide. At just over five feet tall, she came down to 73 pounds.

Show: She starred in the popular Netflix series last year, which focused on her advancement in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious household at the age of 42

Show: She starred in the popular Netflix series last year, which focused on her advancement in the fashion industry after leaving her strict religious household at the age of 42

But seeing her daughter Miriam face the same struggles to adapt as she did made her realize it was time to leave instead.

It took her years to get out – secretly she sold insurance to save enough money up to finally be released in 2012.

In 2013, she already launched her own school line after finding investors ‘the craziest places’, including on a plane and at an ophthalmologist’s office.

“It really did not occur to me that I would fail because I was so damn ignorant,” she said in her show.

However, she did not fail and eventually got a collaboration with La Perla. In 2016, she was the brand’s creative director.

’43 years of my life have been stolen from me. I do not have time, she added.

In 2017, Haart Met designed Gala dresses for Kendall Jenner and Mary J. Blige, which she accompanied to the A-list event.

As creative director, her designs were also carried by stars such as Naomi Campbell, Anna Kendrick, Lily Collins, Lea Michele, Laure Dern, Padma Lakshmi and Kourtney Kardashian.

Now Haart wants to use his story to make a difference in other women’s lives that may be going through something similar.

Wow: She's become a big name in the fashion world, and in 2017 she designed Met Gala dresses for Jenner and Mary J. Blige (pictured with Anna Wintour)

Wow: She’s become a big name in the fashion world, and in 2017 she designed Met Gala dresses for Jenner and Mary J. Blige (pictured with Anna Wintour)

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